Do you Kathleen take Caleb to be your husband – to live together after God’s ordinance – in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon him your heart’s deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto him as long as you both shall live?
On March 17, 2005, I said "I do". I didn't just say it until we had a bad fight and I was mad. I didn't just say it until I got bored, and wanted a change. I didn't just say it until it became a challenge and I wanted to give up. I didn't just say it until we were in a terrible car accident and our lives forever changed. I said "I do" as long as we both shall live. I was talking with Cale today about our marriage and all that we've already had to go through with deployments and different things. Before he fell asleep tonight, I told him how I think he is the most amazing man and I'm so very proud of him. He's working so hard and even when he's worn out and probably would like to just give up on everything, he keeps going, pushing himself every day. The times, when everything around us fades away and it feels like we have a taste of "normal" life again have been a lot more often lately. He's laughing at me quite a bit...which could be saying something about me, but it's okay. :) I don't mind if he's laughing at me or at a fly on the wall. It's so great to see laughter! I am so in love with him and so incredibly blessed that he said "I do" too.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
Today was such a good day for Cale! When I walked into his room this morning, the nurse was just finishing giving him meds and getting him all washed up. I jumped in, and helped him get dressed (today's goal was to get his shoes on while sitting on the side of the bed) and his teeth brushed. He started to tap his chest and then point to the door.I told him he had Psych in a few minutes so we should stay in his room. He kept tapping so I asked if he wanted to leave and he nodded no. His head nods aren't always correct for what he's trying to communicate, so I asked him to show me. He used his legs, and headed out into the hall. I followed saying, "I guess Dr. Howe will find us!" This led to therapy outside :) He did so well too! I was really excited for him. It's a tough job, being the wife and have to hold back all my happy squeals! I don't want them to kick me out of therapy!!
He also did so good with OT, PT, and ST. After all the therapy's we went to my room and looked through some stuff. I showed him his wallet and he looked at his license and military ID. I also handed him his dog tags, and he put them around his neck. It was a good thing to see those on him again. It was going fine at first, as he was looking through everything, but he has a hard time with it. I'm not sure if it's because of memories and it's hard to think about them, or if it's just too much stimulation for right now. I was also shown a way to get into my Army email. After the accident, there were things I couldn't remember, and the password to my email was one of them. Since we were getting out of the Army, I had already created a new one, but some things were still going to that one. I had over 400 emails! There was an error box saying I went over my max storage space...oops! haha.
We played Candy Land, which Cale won when my guy wasn't even through half the board. Next we played a game of Chutes and Latters, and again, Cale won! It was so fun getting to play with him. On Wednesday nights they have Bingo at the hospital, so tonight Cale and I went. He didn't quite make it through the whole game. Just a little too much stimulation still. Such a good day though!
Here are a few funny questions Cale answered in Speech. It's kind of not funny because he's still very confused, but...how can you not giggle? Poor guy was so serious when he was answering. He is doing way better though!
Do people eat rocks?-yes
Do people drink water?-no
Do people eat with shovels?-yes
Do you hear with your eyes?-yes
How many eyes do people have?-10
Can you imagine having 10 eyes?!